The idea of finding a date online is intriguing. Then, when you sign up and set up your own profile, you will realise that it’s so easy. But how come most online daters still find it difficult to succeed in a dating personals site? Here are some reasons:
Lack of perspective – Like everything else, you should be in the right mindset when you try to find a date online. What does this mean? It means you should believe that you can find a date, and say goodbye to nagging doubts that ‘whatever you do, you cannot find a date’. You also cannot expect the dates to come running to you just because you set up your profile. The tools are there to help you (chat, messaging system, email notifications etc.), but they won’t do everything for you.
Lack of persistence – Like everything else, you must be consistently finding dates. Even if you’re on a free dating personals site and you have not paid any sort of membership fee yet, you cannot drop your guard. Every day that you don’t maximise the use of the tools available to you via your free dating personals subscription, your potential date could be planning to meet up with someone else.
So now that you know the top two reasons why most online daters quit, it’s time to come up with a strategy.
1. Set a day to send out emails. You may be too busy the rest of the week to carpet bomb the site with invite-to-chat emails, so what you need to do is set aside one day to do just that. The rest of the time, you can go browsing and bookmarking the profiles you like (a common feature among dating personals sites).
Which day is the best? I’d say Thursday or Friday. Why? These are the days when people are wondering how they’re going to spend the weekend. Work is winding down and they have more time to relax, check their inbox and hang out in online dating personals sites.
2. Treat your profile as the first conversation – You can put anything on your profile, just the same as you can talk about anything with a person upon first meeting. The only question is the flow of the conversation. If your profile does not contain one thing that could spark the interest of anyone browsing it, the conversation stops there. Mention one thing that is unique and intriguing, so that your potential dates would ask ‘how come?’ or say ‘what an interesting person!’
Follow these two tips and try them out consistently on every dating personals site you visit and join.
